This is an analysis of How to Survive Critique: A Guide to Giving and Receiving Feedback by Karen Cheng, it can be found here
The major points to take out of this article were; don’t take it personally, everyone is different, be positive and polite and be willing to change your work.
The first paragraph speaks to the way in which different people receive information. Just as each snowflake is different, so is each individual. Everyone needs a different method of critique. Whether it is fragile or blunt. Giving and receiving critique involves managing these and other personality factors.
Although each person is different, most people react better to supportive environments. Constructive criticism goes a long way when you are trying to relate a message to someone and communicating your views in a combative way would definitely drive majority of individuals away.
The paragraph on the hamburger method was definitely comedic but the premise on which it lies is sound. Yes, you may be trying to cushion the blow but it is easier to receive criticism layered in positive “fluff” than focusing solely on the negatives. If you focus too much on the negatives, it will more than likely make the person feel as though they did nothing right and diminish their self-perception.
Finally, be descriptive in your criticisms so that the person being critiqued knows exactly what you had a problem with and how it could have been better; make actionable suggestions. This will also make it easier for them to incorporate the changes you suggest.